“Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There is no greater investment” – Stephen Covey
Have you ever had an “a-ha” moment where you felt like you should have known this by now? You may smack your forehead or say. “oooooooohhhhh, I get it now.” I hear a Siri-sounding voice in these moments say, “Message received today at 4:00pm.” Maybe you felt like this when you started a new task
or job. Maybe you feel like this now on your personal growth journey. Sometimes you may feel frustrated or even angry with yourself. You want to be farther along in your journey and going at a faster pace. I do too. Growing yourself and the process for it is frustrating when you are focused on your pace. As a
runner, I know that pacing is important. You run a 5K (3.1 mile) race differently from a marathon (26.2 mile). Even elite runners do not run these two races at the same pace. Maybe you, like me, want to grow at a faster pace but reality is that we need to set our mindset on growing at a marathon pace. Steven Covey reminds us that personal growth is a process more like a marathon than a sprint.
Running your race requires patience. Patience is something everyone wants. You’ve probably prayed for, or asked someone else to pray for you, that you’d have more patience. I know I have. The thing is, when you ask for patience, you get put into positions where your patience can grow. You might even be put into places or situations where your patience is tested beyond what you were hoping for. Regarding personal growth, you don’t know what you don’t know. You can’t grow until you know. Hindsight is always 20/20, so give yourself some slack. Growth is a process. Your growth isn’t a Jack-n-Beanstalk type of growth where you shoot up to some guru status overnight.
When you reflect on being patient, show some grace with yourself. How you talk to yourself and treat yourself is conditioning yourself on how you will grow. What do you expect to happen if you beat yourself up after every revelation on your journey of self-awareness? If you condition your mind to beat itself up on new discoveries, how fast do you really think you will go or grow? I’d say, not very fast.
Personal growth is holy ground – sacred ground. Discovering your journey and path to fulfilling your purpose or destiny is not an easy process, but it is a rewarding one. Treat your growth with the care and nurture it deserves. Push yourself to greatness but don’t beat yourself into submission. The time invested into your journey is not wasted time. It is profitable, productive and profound. Time spent in your growth journey also impacts everyone you touch along the way. Enjoy the journey. Be patient. Be tender. Be growing.